My wife has been sick for the last week. She was running a high fever for a few days, and had a hard time eating. I did what I could to help take care of her, but she was still pretty miserable. I went to the doctor with her, ran and get her prescriptions, got her as many slurpees as she wanted, and made sure that she was as comfortable as I could make her. Today is still a little touchy, but she is on the mend now.
All of this meant a lot of canceling dates and shuffling things around. I had to cancel my overnights away from home, and the time that I did have was a quick run out here and there. But it was super important to me to be able to support my wife while she was sick, even if it meant doing a lot of crochet and wishing I could see my other partners too.
This isn’t the first time something like this has happened. This time last year, my girlfriend fell and broke her arm. I canceled the date that I had that night, and ran over to the ER to be with her. I even dealt with the nurse who was confused by my wedding ring and thought we were married. My girlfriend needed surgery, and was in a cast for six weeks afterward. During that time I was over at her apartment constantly, taking care of things around her house, and making sure she was okay. My wife pushed me out the door to help her, and that was a great support that I needed then. Jamie helped too, taking her to the appointment to have the cast cut off. I’m sure that she would have survived without us, but I know that we were incredibly helpful to her when she needed help.
I love that all of my partners know that I would be there for them when they were ill, or needed me in a really intense way. And I know that they would support me when I’m sick, or when I’m off helping another one of them out too. It’s a giant network of love and support, and it is wonderful.